Eternal partnerships are impossible because Justice is too computationally expensive. Let us consider the famous trolley problem. If we accept its parameters, the solution is extremely simple: you must kill the one person and save the five. Anything else is simply stupid. But if I add that the one person is a saint while the five are criminals everything changes; now you must save the saint and give the criminals an expedited death penalty. But if I then add that the saint is eighty while the criminals are ten your verdict inverts once again; now you must send the saint to Heaven early and hope you can rehabilitate the children, who are probably guilty of shoplifting. And so on and so forth. The mechanical utility calculation is not nearly as difficult as deciding which pieces of information to include in it. There is no limit to what may be relevant and how many times your opinion may flip, which is how dramas can have so many twists and turns.
During hard times, equal partners inevitably spend all of their time manipulating and gaslighting each other to do the dirty work. ‘It's your turn to take out the trash.’ ‘No, I did it twice in a row before.’ ‘You did it twice because I agreed that we could have strawberry rather than chocolate ice cream; it's still your turn.’ ‘We agreed that when I cleaned the bathroom it would count for both ice cream and trash.’ ‘No we did not!’ And so on and so forth. The arguments escalate until one party concludes that the cost of dealing with their partner is greater than whatever they originally brought to the table and the partners break up.
Because partnerships are so unstable, most long term relationships have a leader who takes the responsibility for cleaning up and consequently earns the right to control the situation to avoid problems too difficult or painful to fix. These relationships require less Justice because each and every decision is no longer up for debate. Instead, both parties periodically compare their overall relationship satisfaction against market norms and negotiate changes when necessary.
The more permanent their relationship becomes, the more sense it makes for them to invest in each other. A good manager wants his employees to learn new skills; a good employee cares about the reputation and market share of his company. But as they become more mutually invested and the penalties for breaking up increase, the power dynamic between them intensifies! Now when things go wrong they sink their teeth into each other. The leader may demand a noncompete clause, threaten to cut wages, or even resort to violence. The follower is by no means helpless; they may fight back, refuse to work, or sabotage the equipment, like Alinsky recommending students protest smoking regulations by covering the sidewalks with chewing gum.
True rent-seeking slavery is not stable, because leading miserable, incompetent, lazy fools is not fun. Victory in the War of the Ring would have actually been the worst case for Sauron, who would have had even more smelly orcs to manage! When these power dynamics reach their Nash Equilibrium, the result is something like a feudal Lord and Vassal relationship. This leads to stability, mutual investment, and much greater happiness for both parties than pure individual freedom.
The entire world rejoices in a state of domination! Isn't that right, Joy Boy!?!
In other words, because Justice is so computationally expensive we must build a system that tolerates some amount of passionate individual exercise of power. This immediately produces a new problem of Justice that adjusts for differences in power dynamics and abilities, but it practically feasible because it is simpler and used less frequently. The system then runs forever: the Vassals voluntarily support the Lord because they get their fair share of the profits, while the Lord uses his power to maintain Justice and with it his status.
Monarchies only work when the King can elegantly manage his vassals to avoid the worst negative cases, which requires being significantly more intelligent and powerful. But Kings are very lonely, and we long for someone who genuinely wants to understand, appreciate, and support us, and inferior vassals cannot do this. A Queen is thus a paradox: she must have sufficient value to be his equal partner, but still freely choose to be his vassal.
In fact this choice is quite logical. A woman wants a man to think of her as his possession because the resulting Nash Equilibrium gives her an extremely strong tactical position. She has little need to manage him because he finds that their incentives align so perfectly that he is forced to take care of her of his own will anyway. If you want to drive your car, you have to put gas in the tank! Worse, he cannot casually use his greater strength to control her, because if he rearranges her face on Monday, he will not enjoy sex with her on Tuesday. Since she is constantly in the submissive position, when she does want something in particular, she rapidly learns every trick in the follower's playbook to get it out of him.
Oh, aye, Sassenach, I am your master . . . and you’re mine. Seems I canna possess your soul without losing my own.
For the same reasons, she finds that it is always in her best interests to love and support him: if she rips him in front of her friends on Monday, they will not respect him when she needs him to fight for her on Tuesday. When things go wrong, she trusts in him and the strength of their bond, which grows stronger with every trial, into infinity and eternity.
Unfortunately, like so many other wonderful and amazing ideas, voluntary female submission does not work. A king cannot consider his queen a legitimate partner and powerful support unless she brings a great deal to the table, which means her own life, projects, and areas where she is superior to him. If she gradually builds a herd of dairy cows, he may not understand the details of making cheese or managing milkmaids, and he certainly does not want to concern himself with their daily schedule. Most of the time they can work things out, but not always. When the warlike Viking ships appear on the horizon and he chooses to sacrifice her entire herd rather than risk his soldiers, how can he explain the effectiveness of their swift ships and round shields, the strengths of their legendary Captains, or the unexpected obstacles delaying his allies?
It turns out this alignment of incentives, while theoretically rock solid, is practically based on the shifting sands of Justice after all! Even if she knows logically that being regulated by her husband is far less painful than facing the warlike Vikings by herself, she can never exult in losing something she loves, and she can never trust him so completely that she totally overcomes herself. Perhaps if he had trained harder or calculated better her cattle would still be alive! Her friend did not lose her cattle; she is still making cheese.
And when she is frustrated, she finds that as long as he commits to the relationship, her position is so tactically strong that contrary to all of the literature on oppression and oppressors she can in fact extract the entire surplus happiness of the couple from him. He cannot seriously injury her, but as soon as he commits to working every problem out verbally, her greater patience wears him down like a land war in Asia.
Of course, just like equal partnerships, voluntary female submission can work for a long time - even a full human life. But in the end it is not strong enough for eternal life, and when even one partner realizes this, their incentives are no longer aligned, and the entire relationship collapses back into manipulating and gaslighting as soon as conditions become difficult.
Sex is the elegant solution. Since the star-crossed lovers are doomed to high friction that cannot be resolved through discussion, he must be very good at conquering her with violence. When both parties are confident that he can safely apply significant force to her, they can both relax. She feels free to argue with him when necessary because it will not be truly dangerous for her; her constant rebellion does not bother him because he knows he can forcefully end any argument whenever he wishes. She knows that when she really wants something she can probably wear him down; he knows that he can make this expensive enough to limit frivolous requests. I didn't feel that English had any suitable words for expressing the semi-voluntary nature of sexual relationships, so I created the new word bauglin, a contraction of the Sindarin bauglir, meaning tyrant, oppressor, or constrainer, and linda meaning beautiful singing. BAAWW-gleen is just a fun word!
Bloody constraint; for if you hide the crown, even in your hearts, there will he rake for it. Therefore in fierce tempest is he coming, in thunder and in earthquake, like a Jove, that if requiring fail, he will compel.
A woman loves her man because of his bauglin energy, not in spite of it. Sexual relationships are ultimately a massive mutual trust fall, and as the follower, the woman is actually leading. But since bumps are inevitable, she must know that he will chain her in the basement until she calms down rather than allow her to destroy a bond she has gently nutured over many years in a single moment of rage, or the relationship is doomed to failure anyway. Further, she needs a man who is powerful enough to protect and provide for her, and she wants to infatuate him with her beauty and sexual energy. If she succeeds, he will take her. Ability plus strong desire equals action, full stop, no excuses! Nothing enrages a woman more than a man she loves not passionately pushing through her token resistance; her strong tactical position depends on it.
Men are usually uncomfortable around intensely sexual women for precisely this reason! A woman's sexual energy can only be extraordinarly dangerous. A man's only path to victory is a very delicate level of physical, political, economic force that is sufficient to control her without hurting her. Since he has voluntarily eliminated all of the really negative outcomes for her before the game even starts, sex for women is an endless exciting adventure in an otherwise somewhat tame life. She studies him the way Napoleon walked the cliffs of Austerlitz and enjoys living her life with heedless passion, being selfishly naughty from time to time, defusing his anger, and accepting her punishments, which she knows will never be too serious relative to her immense durability. Chains and whips excite her precisely because he cannot seriously use them against her; dancing on the edge is a test and celebration of her own value. When he is truly enraged with her, he does not fight, but leaves.
Bauglin energy is so confusing because a man oppresses his wife in two distinctly different ways. Normally his selfishness level is high, but her pain level is low. They are sparring, and he does not worry too much about threading the needle perfectly because the result is fixed as long as he proves he will fight for their relationship. She forges her own chains by training him to push through her resistance; he enjoys both being dominant and the sexual rewards that follow her submission.
But when the warlike Vikings arrive, the situation inverts: her pain level is high, while his selfishness is low, and their bond is put to the test. He grits his teeth and does what must be done, trusting that when the dust settles she will appreciate him - which will not happen unless she can look back see how he was looking out for her the whole time. Now the mutual trust fall gradually succeeds, Love soars over the theoretical difficulties of Justice, and she becomes the impossible partner after all, bringing just as much value to the table and sharing in the rewards of their labors equally even as she accepts him as her lord.
Women thus live in a strange quantum superposition: by Day they are our partners who build with us, while at Night they are the sexual slaves who pleasure us. When this works, the couple lives both halves passionately. During the Day, they build together. He must protect his home anyway, and as a refiner she can spend his money more effectively than he can. He is happy to help her realize her dreams as long as they are beautiful and pleasant, so she gets most of the freedom of a partner with very little of the responsibility. At Night, she loses herself in his arms. When they begin to mate, she feels his desire to possess her, but resists it. She is, after all, his partner, and she must know that she can rebel safely. But as the dance continues and the tension between them rises, her excitement grows until finally she is overwhelmed by his feelings and surrenders to him completely, desiring only to please him, be one with him, make his fantasies real, and thereby feel him as intensely as possible. They fuck until their bodies give out and the next Day begins.
In practice, the consistently high friction required to maintain a sexual Nash Equilibrium is simply too painful, and usually one side 'wins'. When the husband wins, he uses his authority to crush her endless rebellion. Since she cannot rely on his help, she is crushed by the pressure of domestic success without any control over her inputs or outputs. Her primary strategy for dealing with authority is patience, but she cannot be patient if she will never be allowed to do something. She gradually loses her joyful zest for life and feels increasingly stressed, trapped, helpless.
When the wife wins, she turns her husband into a servant leader. She dominates their superficially equal relationship because she is willing to argue longer. When she approves, she follows. When she does not, she throws a tantrum or simply does whatever she wishes anyway. Either way, it is his privilege to clean up after her. Since he cannot control where she will go, all he can do is attempt to hold things together by removing every rock from her path. The more successful he is, the easier life appears to her, the less she appreciates him, and the more she demands, until finally she reduces him to her butler. The less successful he is, the more contemptuous she becomes, the more she must take on the burdens of leadership herself, and the more neurotic she becomes. Eventually one of them leaves in disgust.
But when they try to opt out, they find their bodies dragging them back together. Modern hookup culture is a disaster for women because sex is always a little degrading for them. Even within a loving marriage he is conquering her and flexing his authority. Her soul can only truly enjoy this when she deeply admires her husband, values the relationship sex unlocks, and is confident he will not go overboard. He must demand that she put the crown on his head, but he should not need her to go ass to mouth while wrapped in barbed wire to prove her submission. Chad does not care about the emotions of his booty call; he just wants to feel good. She cannot understand why her body enjoys throwing itself at the feet of dominant men so much, and she is constantly losing control and waking up feeling violated.
Our politicians and bureaucrats jumped at the chance to expand their power by helping women attempt to solve their problems legally. No-fault divorce laws allow a woman to opt out of marriage at any time; if she claims emotional abuse the family courts will frequently award her the kids, the house because she has the kids, and generous child support and alimony because she has the house and kids. DEI laws incentivize companies to pay women above their market value. Legal standards increasingly require affirmative consent, which means an aggressive player may be convicted of rape even if the woman did not actively resist. Abortion laws give women the sole right to terminate unwanted pregnancies, while men have only the responsibility to pay for her decision. This new legal framework dramatically increases the leverage women have in both hookups and relationships, even when the man is not actually breaking any laws.
With bauglin energy now functionally illegal, men have responded by trying to manipulate women's minds and especially bodies through Game. Initially this is thrilling, but the red pill never really leads past the hookup stage because it involves such an explicitly antagonistic worldview. Most partnerships at least begin with mutually beneficial intentions, but basing a relationship on game means warping straight to the manipulation and gaslighting and clutching a scorpion to your breast from day one. This is a huge amount of work for five minutes of bliss a few times per week, and most players eventually grow into more general self improvement. Modern sexual relationships simply do not work for men, and more and more of us are realizing this and opting out of them altogether.
Men are watching this process play out with a combination of total bafflement, white hot rage, and icy contempt. Remember, we did make those sacrifices for you. Women did not vote themselves the right to vote, nor did you earn it on the battlefield. We gave it to you, as we did with all of the rest of your so-called rights. And after all these sacrifices, modern women would rather burn civilization to the ground than give us the time of day. There are no words in the English language for this incomprehensible level of ingratitude. Forget partnership, modern women do not deserve men in their lives at all. You are unworthy to tie our shoelaces.
And this attitude hits women where it hurts, because it is true: modern women are historically low value. Female value has always been more ephemeral; no one is writing articles about what men bring to the table because our power, glory, and wisdom are obvious. But clearly perceiving feminine virtue does not help, because most women have run the feminist doom loop so long that their real girl power is very weak. Most of you are fat, ugly, obnoxious, entitled, can't cook or clean, or have colossal body counts. Some poor souls are all of the above.
It is worth noting here that contempt is one of the strongest predictors of relationship disaster. Since a woman's high value is her shield against male oppression, low value modern women cannot return to a functional patriarchy. Your only option is to throw yourself on the mercy of men until you regain your value, and that mercy is now in very short supply. No man could put ‘I love being forced to do dirty work by a strong boss’ on his resume without courting disaster, especially if his boss was already infuriated with him, and women are noticing that 'trad wives' frequently have disastrous marriages where they cannot avoid being the personal focus of their husband's frustration with the recalcitrant Longhouse.
Since men cannot argue women into submission, we can no longer vote you into submission, and quite frankly we do not really want you back anyway, the only solution is violent revolution. But this will not work either, because men have no interest in suffering through a long civil war and a longer reconstruction only to create a Handmaid's Tale dystopia with women locked in y-shaped boxes for the preservation of the species. In the end, men simply cannot win against the Longhouse. It turns out that women do have agency after all!
But in reality, wearing the crown of thorns is the most difficult thing anyone can ever do. No man can truly say ‘I don't know, but it will be all right,’ no matter how much we want to. If you are going to ask your family to suffer with you, you must know how to win. If you do not, they will eventually leave you; no one wants to suffer now to suffer more later! Determination is necessary, but not sufficient without the expertise; the greatest harm can result from the best intentions. The warlike Vikings are here and women will not be able to understand who will be making what sacrifices, why our plans are fair, or how they will lead to victory. We will have to drag them through it.
The second problem is that if we negotiate with individual women, everyone will have an incentive to hold out. In fact, this is already happening. Feminists viciously attack the Men of the West from beneath the very umbrella of protection and provision we provide! They are rewarded, while 'trad' women who try to do the right thing lose, because they cannot avoid being the personal embodiment of their husbands' ongoing resentment of the recalcitrant Longhouse and falling into a very male-dominated version of the traditional patriarchy. We cannot seriously ask our wives to sacrifice for us until we remove our favor from the women who hate us.
This process is not happening peacefully. Being targeted by a massive campaign of unjustified resentment and ingratitude is miserable. Watching modern women continue this campaign even as Western Civilization collapses is simply incomprehensible. We are burning with white hot rage and freezing with icy contempt.Most women have realized that something has gone wrong and are looking for the exit, or would be, except that all of this masculine rage, no matter how justified, is making it impossible for them to just ask men to take the reins again. And much of the contempt simply isn't justified. All modern people have been the target of an unbelievably powerful, malicious, ubiquitous, seductive, destructive, historically unprecedented propaganda campaign. Did you know that Gloria Steinem was CIA? Many have fallen, even among men, and very few are truly standing tall under this immense pressure.
The absolute root of women's frustration with Western Civilization is lack of appreciation for what they bring to the table. If I were to describe our problems in a nutshell, it would be that men have valued women individually but not collectively, while women have valued men collectively but not individually. But beauty and pleasure are important. They may sometimes be sacrificed during difficult times, but in the end thriving is not optional. Only women can power the Great Restoration! If all we needed was a big battle followed by drinking in Valhalla, men would be fine on our own. But as the name implies, it will mostly be about cleaning, healing, rebuilding, and regeneration, which are all areas where women shine. Worse, it will require many battles over a long period of time. Men can only fight that hard for that long to thrive, not to survive. The sexes may not be equal in authority, but we are equal in value, and we can only win together.
Greater appreciation directly leads to greater demand, and women are ready for this. Bodice-ripping romances about female protagonists being semi-violently taken by powerful men fly off the shelves. Most women are happy to be a man's personal slut at Night as long as they can be his partner again the next Day, and the key to fixing the traditional patriarchy is replacing its hard one-size-fits-all boundaries with soft personal ones. In other words, it means telling them 'slowly' rather than 'no'. This does require a lot of work to prepare the experiments, handle their irritation when we allow them to learn by the school of hard knocks, and clean up when things go really wrong. But it gives us something to do, and it dramatically increases the alignment of the couple; when she can be patient, it is much easier for her to keep loving and supporting him, and that makes it easier for him to remember that she is a net positive despite her thorns.
Finally, marriage is a sacrament because it is simply too difficult for us without God, especially finding suitable partners and resolving conflicts. If you are not extremely vulnerable to your partner, they are not bringing enough to the table, so both parties must be able to appeal to God for His Justice when things go seriously wrong. Bringing men and women back together is one of God's top important priorities, and He knows that women must be happy. You cannot share what you do not possess, and you cannot be endlessly patient unless you can wake up every day and live your dreams. He will not allow a patriarchy where men chain women in y-shaped boxes.
Therefore I say to you: SHUT THE FUCK UP, BITCHES! We understand how to fix these problems AND YOU DO NOT! Until this crisis is resolved, you are going to follow our commands during the Day, get on your knees and pleasure us at Night, and be endlessly grateful to God and your husbands that you are not only being spared the apocalyptic future brewing on the horizon, but get to live out your personal romantic fantasies.
I am well aware that many women will be outraged by this command, because many modern women are now instinctively rebellious. Amazon Attitude is so insidious because women do have legitimate complaints. The patriarchy has been significantly degraded during the Iron Age. How could it not be, after God tore down His mighty Priest-Kings and heroic Captains and allowed the Dark Lords and elite crime families to rampage unchecked? No one of either sex enjoys submitting to this degenerate hierarchy! And the more virtuous a woman is, the more clearly she will see its inadequacies, the less she will fit into its gender roles, the more she will rebel, the more successful her rebellion will be, and the worse her Amazon Attitude will get. She simply cannot help it; anything less would crush her joyful spirit. Two of my favorite Amazons are Marie and Hortense Mancini, who carved a path of destruction across Europe for fifty years.
The problem is that an Amazon's rebellion is never as successful as it appears to her! She may be fighting the patriarchy, but the patriarchy was never really fighting her, because men know we cannot exert our full strength against our women. And Amazons are still ultimately women, who view the world as they want it to be, not how it really is. When they win; they take huge victory laps. When they fall, the patriarchy catches them while they rationalize away its constant assistance.
Amazon Attitude is absolutely catastrophic in marriage. Many Amazons are among the most beautiful, loving, hard working, charming, and competent women, but dealing with them is about as much fun as pulling teeth. It is simply not possible for a man to lovingly cherish a woman who is constantly fighting and competing with him; every Amazon drags her husband willy-nilly into the most painful forms of partnership. The worst part is that it never gets better; because she refuses to let him lead, she can never build her trust in him. Instead, her Amazon Attitude only gets worse until either she breaks him or he leaves her.
Do they desire a way other than Allah’s — knowing that all those in the heavens and the earth submit to His Will, willingly or unwillingly, and to Him they will ˹all˺ be returned?
Whoever seeks a way other than Islam, it will never be accepted from them, and in the Hereafter they will be among the losers.
Your superior virtue will in no way save you from submission to the male hierarchy under God. On the contrary, the less you wish to follow its general rules, the more you must submit to your husbands personally - unless you wish to wear the crown of thorns yourselves, and even the greatest among you are not remotely capable of doing so.
We will not clutch vipers to our breasts. If you refuse to follow us, we will use our superior strength to remove you from our communities. When the patriarchal shield you detest so much is finally withdrawn and you are fully exposed to the forces of Chaos, you will no longer be able to gaslight yourself about your great masculine energy. Our traitorous elites have flooded our country with foreign military-age men. They have already been primed for violence by decades of propaganda against the West, Whites, and Imperialism. They will not gently oppress; they will mercilessly rape, torture, and enslave. The details of Rotherham are brutal: women were not only gang raped, but sexually tortured and forced to rewatch it all on video while migrant men made bets. The goal was not merely physical pleasure, but humiliating vengeneance against a nation that had conquered them in the past.
We are not going to argue endlessly with the Longhouse over every edge case of women who appear to be successful in masculine fields or in equal relationships while Rome burns. Perfect Justice is not possible! We are going to do our best to fulfill our responsibilities and keep you out of the rape camps with controlled physical, economic, and political violence. But you can reject us. In the end, you are our partners. You are far too tough for us to endlessly rule you without your consent - and we would not wish to! Gentle oppression simply does not work on women who are determined to resist, which is why the 'weaker' sex was able to overthrow the patriarchy so completely in the first place. If you do not like the imperfect male hierarchy, you will be allowed to choose the alternative. What you will not be allowed to choose is endless complaints and manipulative gaslighting from beneath the umbrella of protection that we provide.
No one wants to see Rotherham on a national scale, least of all me - which is why I am trying so hard to prevent it. But if you choose to reject us, what can we do? Hard times are already baked in the cake, and the Men of the West will not make the tremendous sacrifices required to overcome them for women who do not appreciate us, let alone women who are actively and intentionally breaking everything we are trying to fix! And in the end it will be our own wives who condemn you. Conservatism has failed so miserably because it has no bitch energy, but the women who are returning to the patriarchy, giving great sex, and working hard to maintain their beautiful and joyful households with endless fiery determination will not share their men. They will demand all of our energy for themselves, like the Ronaldo meme: I will love it, and I think I deserve it.
And then the Last Alliance will fight the Dark Lord and his deluded minions on the slopes of Mount Doom for the freedom of Middle-Earth.
IN FACT THE FEMALE POSITION IS SO STRONG THAT IF THE MAN CANNOT BREAK IT, SHE OWNS HIM! But this bonding process requires a great deal of time, because the couple must go through hell together repeatedly, but if the warlike Vikings are constantly at the gates then he is an incompetent fool!In those days men will seek death and will not find it; they will desire to die, and death will flee from them.
Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he's taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment—just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!—an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience—or to fake—a sense of self-esteem . . . . Love is our response to our highest values—and can be nothing else.
Marrying is not a proper thing for men. Marriage is a great fetter that binds firmly. There are many base bondages in the world. Association with women is the toughest of all. One can free oneself from all bondages except that of women.. Anyone bound with nooses of iron and timber can secure release but one bound with nooses of women never frees oneself.